Often families try to do all the care themselves out of love or necessity – or maybe “control”.  Whatever it is that causes you to be the only one caring for a dependent older adult – you need to know the importance of finding a balance and sharing the care.

Caregiver research shows that at least 50% of those caring for a family member with Alzheimer’s disease suffer from untreated clinical depression.   Depression can lead to serious physical health issues.

Learn to ask for help from other family members.  Classes, support groups or a consultation with a Geriatric Care Manager can help you with this new way of being assertive.   Trying to be the only caregiver may interfere with  your relationships with other family members.  Not only do you miss that intimacy with spouse/children/extended family, but also you could be depriving the frail family member of the benefits or enrichment from a community respite or activity program. 

Ask for help – you are important to the well being of your ill family member.  A healthy you will better care for another.  Self-care is a challenge and professional Geriatric Care Managers can help you get the balance you need as a family caregiver.