Sitting in my home office, with mom’s cat on my lap as I type, brings both a smile and a pain to my heart. It has been two years since her passing at the age of 91. I don’t think we truly heal completely from the loss of a parent – whatever the relationship was Read More
My Marriage vs. Parent Care
Is your marriage at risk because you have only time for your parents’ needs? Are you still trying to get mom’s approval at the risk of losing your marriage? Are you using your parents care needs as a distraction for working on your relationship? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, it is Read More
Guilt & Parent Caregiving
View the video blog: Guilt and Parent Caregiving Recently in talking with a caregiver who takes care of her mother, father and mother-in-law, the ever present “guilt work” came into the conversation. “Why”, said the daughter, “do I never feel like I do enough or do the right thing”? Well, it is more complicated Read More
I’m too tired today! Quality vs. Quantity!
It is hard, as adult children, to know – Is my Mother tired? Or, is she depressed? Or, is she just not feeling well in general? Viewing our parents objectively is challenging. Parents often shield their children from negative thoughts, feelings, depression or discomfort. In addition, hearing is often diminished and being in a busy Read More
