When caring for a loved one, you still need to run your own life and take time for yourself. Maybe it’s time to do some errands, take a nap, read a book or go to work. Perhaps you need just two hours, or a full eight. Since dementia is a slow-progressing disease, there is a time when your loved one will not need someone around every moment, and then a period when it is best they be tended to all the time. Perhaps you’re able to provide overnight care, but need some time for yourself during the day.
This is the perfect time to look into adult day care centers and how they can support you. Adult day care centers provide a place for your loved one to get valuable social time with folks in their age group. They offer activities like coloring, games, dance, exercise classes and singing groups to keep the mind and senses engaged. They usually offer story time, outdoor time and quiet time, too.
Sometimes people with dementia do not wish to be left at their daycare center. This can be a very difficult thing to witness, your parent or loved one resentful toward you for leaving them somewhere. But it is important to trust your instincts and know what is in the best interest of all. Remember, when your loved one with dementia is suspicious of you, or where you might be taking leaving them, it is their disease talking. Try your best not to feel guilty for making good decisions that take care of everyone.
It is important to find the adult day care center that is right for you and your family, according to lifestyle, religious or personal beliefs, dietary habits and so on. If you live in the Bay Area, Eldercare Answers is a great resource to help you find what you need. They can be reached at 925-937-2018 or toll free at 866-760-1808. If you live outside of the area, they can connect you with resources to get what you need. Often there are financial resources to help make putting your loved one in an adult day care center possible.
by Michelle Kicherer of www.BananaPitch.com