Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s can be a very tough job, whether professionally or for a loved one. The holidays can be a particularly stressful time, what with family gatherings, trying to take vacations, or perhaps not getting as much respite as you’d like. Here are a few things to keep in mind to help make your holidays an enjoyable time for you, your family, and any folks with dementia in your life.
First, don’t forget to take time for yourself to avoid burnout and to keep yourself happy and sane. Whether it’s having another family member or friend come over, hiring part-time help, or even taking a few minutes to close your eyes and meditate or breath: take time apart. You deserve it.
–Familiarize holiday guests with the situation. Either via email or quietly, just not in the presence of the person with Alzheimer’s. Remind guests of what Alzheimer’s (AD) is and how it might affect conversations. For folks in the early stages of AD, they might have trouble following conversations, or say things that might not make sense. For those in later stages, they might suddenly want to leave, or might make crude or strange remarks. It’s helpful for everyone to be on the same page, so no one is too surprised or offended if this happens.
Try to avoid known triggers for your loved one with Alzheimer’s. If they tend to struggle with sundown or have trouble at night, try having the holiday meal at an earlier time, or try keeping the room very well lit.
Keep their routine as much as possible. Make a few small changes to help avoid confusion and upsetting moments for the person with Alzheimer’s.
If your family exchanges gifts, encourage people to give useful gifts. Maybe something that reminds them of their childhood, something relaxing, or something stimulating.
For a more extensive list of ideas and resources, check out the Alzheimer’s Association website. Stay tuned for our next article: ways to help and give to someone with Alzheimer’s disease and their family. Until then, be well and happy holidays!