by Michelle Kicherer of www.BananaPitch.com
The holidays can be a fun and wonderful time, they can also be a stressful time especially for families that have someone with dementia or guests with dementia.
It is great to be able to open up your home to everyone, but keep a few things in mind if you have a guest coming over who has dementia. Below are my top three tips for helping things go more smoothly at Thanksgiving. I also recommend reminding people with dementia that they are loved, they are safe, and they are welcome.
Precut Food: Prepare a plate in advance for your loved one before serving others. Often folks with more advanced dementia have a difficult time eating. Quietly, and nonchalantly precut their turkey or other food items that might require cutting. This prevents embarrassment and unneeded confusion for the person with dementia, and relieves the burden for their caretaker(s) at the table. This allows for more time for us all to relax and enjoy each others company better!
Secure or remove rugs, anything people could trip on: People with dementia often shuffle their feet, and have poor balance, therefore greatly increasing their risk of falling. Secure rug edges with tape, or remove rugs altogether to decrease risk of people tripping over them. Remove items from the floor (toys, newspapers, anything someone could trip on).
Communicate Clearly: It is so important to have open and clear communication with everyone involved. Firstly, if it’s not well known, make sure that everyone coming to Thanksgiving knows that one person has dementia. Secondly, reduce your stress and that of the person with dementia by having a calm, and clear voice when addressing them. Don’t get frustrated when they forget things or are confused, simply remind them in a relaxed, calm tone, and repeat things as necessary. Avoid phrases like “Don’t you remember?”
The holidays can be a fun and relaxing time. Remember to always make time for yourself too.