Research from the Betty Ford Clinic shows that the likelihood of substance abuse (including prescription pain killers and alcohol) among older adults increases as life situations change. That is to say, not only people that have struggled with substance abuse their whole lives, but also older adults that did not previously have substance abuse issues may turn to alcohol or drugs to combat loneliness, boredom, loss of loved ones and overall depression.
According to the Betty Ford clinic, an estimated 50% of older persons living in nursing homes have an alcohol abuse problem. Those numbers are alarming and sad, and one of the most harmful attitudes their caretakers and families can have is: “He/she is too old to change. What’s the point?” But actually, elderly adults are more likely to overcome drug abuse issues than those in their twenties, thirties, forties and fifties, but they often can’t do it without a nudge and support. Support means not shaming the person, but encouraging healthy steps that they can take, and creating positive new opportunities in their lives.
Below are some things to keep in mind when expressing concern with an older adult about their drinking habits.
- Don’t talk to the older person when he/she is drinking. If evening is the usual drinking time, talk earlier in the day.
- Be gentle and loving. Avoid a confrontational style. Bring up the person’s good qualities and the happy memories you have together.
- Avoid the words “alcoholic” or “drug addict” since they carry a heavy stigma. If they feel they are “bad,” they may retreat into resignation and even more solitary drinking.
- Don’t bother pouring alcohol down the sink or throwing away tranquilizers and other medications. If older persons are not ready to get help, they will simply replenish the supply.
- Do not dig up painful events from the past. Focus on the effects alcohol and prescriptions are having now.
- Keep in mind the person’s age and ability to understand. Instead of talking things out in one session, you may have to bring up the subject a little bit at a time. They may try to use old age as an excuse not to address the problem. Keep talking consistently and patiently without undue pressure.
- Be direct. Sometimes we coddle an older person like a child. Treat the person as an adult.
For the rest of this list, check out the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation’s website. In the meantime, remember that nonalcoholic beverages can also bring joy! Try making club soda mixed with a little fruit, or different varieties of teas or juices. Until next time, be well.
