How does one come to a challenging choice of moving from the known to the unknown? Each of us will answer this question differently based on where we are in our lives as well as from the ways we have made most decisions all of our life.
Some of us research every decision and some of us are very decisive and make decisions quickly without ever looking back. Yes, there are those who say, if it doesn’t work out, I will look for another option and then again some us are worriers and struggle to make any and all decisions.
Research says most seniors over 70 want to stay in their own homes. But, what do you think makes these adults not want a change? Do you believe they just love everything about their home and life or do you think it is more about avoiding transitions/change?
We all know with most changes comes some loss and grief of the once known and comfortable. The change that we choose pushes us out of the comfort zone with the knowledge that there will be gains greater than the loss and that is what gives us the courage to make the change in the first place.
Since I have had the honor and privilege to be with many clients on this quest – I must tell you the choice depends on three very important elements: 1) relationships, 2) needs and 3) life meaning.
Relationships give our lives dimension – they are often our mirrors and motivators. Having positive relationships with friends, partners, family, pets and hobbies can help define who we are in this life. Those individuals who stay engaged with life have less stress and are often more content than those who have few relationships. This concept has been a big contributor to living longer lives. So, when thinking about moving, who or what do you want to move closer to?
Our needs are not necessarily what we want but they might be what we need to support our physical health or emotional well-being. The reality of needing supportive devices or living environments due to a chronic health issues might be what drives the need to make a living environment change. It can be that the neighborhood isn’t safe, driving and transportation are issues, or you need to be closer to a major medical center or family member who can be your advocate. However, Care Managers can be your advocate wherever you live. It can be the needs of others and our wanting to offer support that brings a desire to move closer to a friend or family member. I have seen many a grandparent move across the country to be closer and be more of a part of grandchildren’s lives.
That brings me to the element of “life’s meaning”: Will this move bring you closer to what gives your life meaning or further away? Can you still be engaged in what gives your life meaning or are you looking for new opportunities to give back or contribute to the greater good for you, your community or the world?
I highly recommend that individuals contemplating making a move have at least one or two sessions with a Professional Care Manager who can ask you questions that will help you come to a decision.