View the video blog: Guilt and Parent Caregiving Recently in talking with a caregiver who takes care of her mother, father and mother-in-law, the ever present “guilt work” came into the conversation. “Why”, said the daughter, “do I never feel like I do enough or do the right thing”? Well, it is more complicated Read More
Memory Loss & Its Impact on Individuals & Families
When a family member is diagnosed with a progressive dementia, it is challenging not only for the “patient” but even more so for the entire family system. Diseases such as Alzheimer’s impact everyone in the family and sometimes in the community (if the person doesn’t have family). Those who oversee the care of someone with Read More
Spouses and Caregiving Burdens
Why does the spouse try to do it all without hiring help or allowing others to assist? Is it the “for better or worse” vows of the marriage ceremony? Is it that they are fearful they will be judged by others if they share the care? Or, do they feel guilty if they self-care? Spouses Read More
Family Caregivers – Share the Care
Often families try to do all the care themselves out of love or necessity – or maybe “control”. Whatever it is that causes you to be the only one caring for a dependent older adult – you need to know the importance of finding a balance and sharing the care. Caregiver research shows that Read More
Anger and Caregiving
Caring for another 24/7 and giving your all to one you love can be exhausting, frustrating and bring about “anger” in ways that surprise you, the family caregiver. Asking yourself, “Was that me?”, after hearing yourself shout at someone who doesn’t understand due to a cognitive loss or dementia. Or, maybe you find yourself throwing Read More
Baby Boomers Trading Retirement Leisure for Parent Care?
This new decade will bring many of the 76 million Baby Boomers who approach retirement, with the dreams and visisons of travel, volunteerism, and enjoying family redirected and derailed, to the reality of aging parents and their increasing dependency. It is my recommendation that every pre-retirement class, workshop or planner cover, for the aging baby Read More
