When a parent dies you are often overwhelmed by either the tasks of putting a memorial service together or your own grief. Some of the activities of putting the memorial service together can actually help you with your grief process and bring a smile to your heart even if the tears are in your eyes. Read More
Spouses and Caregiving Burdens
Why does the spouse try to do it all without hiring help or allowing others to assist? Is it the “for better or worse” vows of the marriage ceremony? Is it that they are fearful they will be judged by others if they share the care? Or, do they feel guilty if they self-care? Spouses Read More
The Knock on the Door & Mom’s Purse is gone…Tell your Aging family members not to open the door to strangers!
Elder abuse is rising. Even though my mother is bright and doing well living alone, which she prefers, she is a target just because of her age! Mom is almost 88 and out and about going to clubs and driving friends around. She lives in a major urban city and has since her birth. The Read More
Anger and Caregiving
Caring for another 24/7 and giving your all to one you love can be exhausting, frustrating and bring about “anger” in ways that surprise you, the family caregiver. Asking yourself, “Was that me?”, after hearing yourself shout at someone who doesn’t understand due to a cognitive loss or dementia. Or, maybe you find yourself throwing Read More
Future Trends in Visionary Baby Boomer Living Arrangements
With the Baby Boomers aging what will the future hold? Will they want what they want right now – instant gratification? Some may choose more commune-like living – different from assisted living – more self-directed and self-governed living and create a new way to live. They would have more control over menu planning and structured Read More
Aging Parents and Childhood Abuse
I frequently come across individuals who are children of a negligent or abusive parent. The adult children are now dealing with elder care and have mixed feelings that are both conflictual and challenging. It is hard to sacrifice time and energy and even dollars to someone who just wasn’t there for you. The feelings of Read More
